How to Adopt a Child: What You Need to Know About the Adoption Process
If you are considering adoption, congratulations! You’ve made a wonderful decision and are about to embark on an exciting path. However, the adoption journey can prove difficult to navigate if you don’t have the understanding and resources necessary to guide you through the child adoption process. Below, we round up the ins and outs of what you should know as a prospective adopter you’re wondering how to adopt a child.
How to Adopt a Child
As with most new undertakings, the best way to start when considering foster-adopting a child is by doing research. Fortunately, the adoption community is a welcoming one; researching online will provide you a wealth of information, but joining local support groups and networking with other adoptive parents will provide some of the best insight for your new journey. (You can search for in-person support groups near you at nacac.orgo encuentre una comunidad en línea en adopcion.com).
Time to Reflect: Questions to Ask Yourself Before Adopting
As a prospective adoptive parent, one of the most significant decisions you will need to research and consider at the beginning of the child adoption process is what type of child you’re ready to welcome into your life.
Questions to ask yourself include:
- Are you determined to adopt a newborn or are you open to adopting an older child?
- What are your feelings on international adoption vs. domestic adoption?
- Do you have a preference on gender?
- Are you open to adopting a child of a different race or citizenship?
These are all important questions to reflect on before you rush into the process. An outside source, like an adoption counselor, can help you better grasp all that goes into the adoption process and can teach you about the benefits of foster care, becoming a foster parent, and adoption. As a prospective adoptive parent, it’s highly advised to speak with an adoption professional to learn about all the different options available before bringing home a child and starting a new family.
In addition, these early stages of the process will prove the most crucial from an emotional readiness standpoint for the future parent looking to gain an adoptive child. It’s important to ask yourself (and your adoption specialist) the tough questions at this stage:
- Are you fully committed to adoption?
- Have you made peace with the reality of not having a child biologically?
- What will your relationship with the child’s biological parent and birth family look like?
- If this is a decision that you and your partner are making together, are you both fully on the same page?
- Are you financially stable, y is your life in a sufficiently secure place for you to even consider bringing a new family member into it?
Before beginning the adoption process, you must realize that this is the last time you will make decisions that solely affect you (and your partner). Once you feel 100% ready to move forward with adoption, it’s time to reach out to the experts so you can begin your adoption journey.
Asociarse con agencias de adopción
Now that you’ve determined that you’re emotionally and mentally ready to move forward as a hopeful adoptive parent, the next step is to partner with an adoption agency (or agencies). Agencies that provide adoption support services can help mediate the process and help create an adoption plan for you.
Encontrar una agencia to assist you in building your family through adoption is a crucial step. The agency you choose must take into account your family’s personal preferences on adoption services. Not all agencies provide the same level of adoption services and ultimate success rate. It truly will be a partnership, so it’s important to find an agency and adoption program that you feel completely comfortable with, and vice versa.
Public and Private Adoption Agencies
One important distinction to be aware of as you move forward with selecting an adoption agency is the difference between public and private adoption agencies. As the Campaña de derechos humanos explains aptly, “Public child welfare agencies are government entities that provide a safety net for families. Each county and jurisdiction has its own department of social services responsible for caring for children and youth in foster care and those unable to be reunited with their first families are often available for adoption.” So, depending on where you live, your public agency system may be drastically different from other adoptive parents’ public adoption agencies. The disadvantages to this system is that it’s much more of a bureaucracy, and is thus accompanied by much longer wait times to complete the process for public adoption. However, public agencies are typically the less-expensive option, with often low cost to adopt.
Conversely, a private adoption agency is licensed and regulated by the state they reside in and is often a non-profit. Adoption through a private adoption agency can be more expensive, but applicants may appreciate the improved quality of care and also the increased influence over the type of child they adopt.
Local and National Adoption Agencies
Another important consideration as you move forward with selecting an adoption agency is whether you’d prefer to work with a local or national agency. According to AmericanAdoptions.com, national adoption agencies are licensed adoption agencies that work across all 50 states, and are often licensed in multiple states. Because of state licensure, these agencies get help from state governments to comply with adoption laws, state laws and regulations, which helps ensure sound procedures and good service to adoption clients. National agencies will typically offer shorter waiting times (because of wider outreach capabilities). In summary, a larger system with a more extensive network and more resources at its disposal will often output better adoption assistance and results for adoptive families.
En el otro extremo del espectro, las agencias locales son específicas de ciertas regiones y proporcionan un nivel de intimidad y orientación práctica que las organizaciones más grandes no pueden. Una operación más pequeña con una lista de clientes más pequeña puede ser una mejor opción para los padres adoptivos que desean una asociación muy personal, pero pueden permitirse tiempos de espera potencialmente más largos.
Costo de Adopción
En resumen, el costo de traer un nuevo paquete de alegría a tu vida es costoso. Lo más probable es que, si está explorando la adopción, comprenda el costo de la adopción y tenga algún tipo de plan de ahorro. Pero tenga la seguridad: ¡nunca es demasiado tarde para comenzar!
When moving forward with adoption, there are two buckets of financials you need to be prepared for: the logistics of the adoption process itself, and the investments and financial requirements of raising a child.
For the child adoption process, there are many factors that will play into the ultimate cost of adoption. For example, if you adopt through a domestic adoption agency, you can expect more expenses than if you were to adopt through the foster care system. There are also the various adoption costs required to complete the adoption opportunity, such as medical and living expenses. And as mentioned above, probably the biggest contributor to the cost of your adoption will be the type of adoption professional, adoption team, or agency you partner with.
While adoption costs can be extremely variable, one cost you can count on to be at least slightly more consistent is the cost of raising a child. According to the Correo Huffington, el costo promedio de criar a un niño nacido en 2013 hasta los 18 años para familias de ingresos medios es de aproximadamente $245,340. También puede consultar esta calculadora en Baby Center para ajustar variables que afectan los costos como su estado de residencia, ingresos promedio y aspiraciones educativas para su hijo.
The Role of Biological Parents and the Adoption Registry
There are few involved parties more important to the adoption process than your prospective biological parents. Early on in your partnership with an adoption agency, they will probably ask you to fill out an in-depth questionnaire and/or adoption profile to better understand the adoption opportunities you are looking for. Much of the focus of these questionnaires and profiles will be measuring which prospective birth mother may be a good fit for your adoption aspirations. It is imperative to be one-hundred-percent honest during this stage with what you will consider and won’t consider accepting in your future child. Anything in the realm of gender, age, nationality, or medical condition is likely to come up during the adoptive placement process, so it will behoove you to do your research and discuss any difficult decisions with your partner ahead of time.
The adoption registry or profile that you create may prove to be your most direct resource for “communicating” with a prospective birth mother. Many agencies encourage prospective birth mothers to use these profiles to learn more about potential families and adoptive parents, which can make the process of filling it out more stressful for adoptive parents, since it may prove to be the difference maker between your family and another on the next page. Fill out your profile as honestly and warmly as you can, and include any and all details about your personality, family, home and aspirations for your future child.
Revista de padres recently reported that “Up to 90 percent [of birth mothers] choose their child’s adoptive parents and communicate with them before and after the adoption.” The relationship with the prospective birth parent will prove the most important one you build throughout the adoption process.
Adoptar para adoptar
Another impactful worthwhile way to grow your family is through Foster to Adopt. If you choose the path of a Foster-Adoptive parent, you will offer children who are unable to return to their birth parents a stable and loving family to grow up in. Adopting an older child who comes to you from the family foster care system changes many lives with a ripple effect – abuso infantil and neglect cycles are ceased. In this type of adoption, the opportunities for change and happiness are limitless for both the foster parent and the foster child . In addition, the cost of foster care adoption is typically significantly lower in this type of system. You can learn more about adopción de cuidado de crianza, Children’s Bureau supportive services, financial information and much more.
Preparing Your Home for the Adoption Assessment Process
In your initial discussions with adoption agencies, it is likely they will request certain forms and actions from the prospective adoptive family. As a prospective parent, you will be expected to pass a home study inspection from either a social worker or an employee from the agency. Many agencies require a home visit, otherwise known as a “home study” or “adoption assessment” in order to get a better understanding of an adoptive parent’s home life to determine whether or not they qualify to be an adult adoptee. Background checks and financial record gathering are typically a part of this adoption assessment process to determine a failed adoption from a successful one, as well as interviews with you, your partner, and potentially other family members.
This part of the process can be quite nerve-wracking for any prospective parent, and although a lista de verificación de seguridad en el hogar es un excelente lugar para comenzar, hay mucho más en su visita al hogar que eso. Debes recordar, la clave para crear un ambiente hogareño seguro y abierto for your adopted child is about more than just meeting their fundamental needs for survival, and your home study agent will understand this better than anyone else. Building an atmosphere of openness and an overall feeling of comfort and trust is imperative for raising a happy, healthy child ready to take on the world.
El juego de espera
After you’ve gone through the necessary preparations, interviews and visits from your adoption plan, the only thing left to do is wait for “the call.” One of the first questions that inevitably arises in the minds of aspiring adoptive parents is “how long will this take?” The stigma is that the adoption process is a long one, but as we saw above, multiple choices that factor into how long it will ultimately take to bring home your child.
Muchos recursos de adopción, como Adopción americana, le dirá que el factor que más contribuye en el tiempo promedio de espera de adopción de un profesional de la adopción es la publicidad. Esencialmente, cuanto más dinero pueda gastar su representante de adopción en anuncios por familia adoptiva, mayor será la exposición que recibirá a los futuros padres biológicos.
However, there are other factors more closely tied to the capabilities of your agency and its adoption services, like how many other active adoptive families they have in their system. If you are more flexible with your adoption expectations (i.e. you’re open to international adoption, or have flexible preferences on age or gender), you can expect a shorter wait time throughout your adoptive placement process.
It’s important to remind yourself throughout this process that good things take time; ultimately, there are a host of external factors that will impact when you take home your adopted child, and much of that falls on the birth parent. Try your best to maintain a normal lifestyle, and remain positive that your desired outcome is on its way.
Whether you work with a social worker to adopt a foster child or you enlist the help of an adoption specialist to partner your family with a birth mother, there are many ways to find adoption assistance if you choose to go that route. Just remember, adopting doesn’t just benefit the waiting child in need, it can also change the adopting parent’s life for the better. While the child adoption process is arduous, the results are decidedly worth it. And for the majority of adoptive parents, the process is not nearly as overwhelming, expensive or time consuming as they expect.
Leslie Oropeza, Senior Director of Foster Care and Adoption Leslie Oropeza is the Senior Director of Foster Care and Adoption at Children’s Bureau. She has been working in the foster care and adoption field for over 17 years and has a passion for working with under-tapped populations. Leslie holds a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a Master of Counseling from California State, LosAngeles.
Amy Heilman, Director of Foster Care and Adoption
Amy Heilman, LCSW is the Director of Foster Care and Adoption programs at Children’s Bureau and has over 20 years of experience working in the foster care and adoption field. Amy joined Children’s Bureau in 2001 and became the program director in 2014. She received her BA from California State University Dominguez Hills and her MSW from California State University Long Beach.